Hey there, beautiful soul.
World's gotten pretty intense these days...there's a lot of fear, anxiety, and anger being passed around. The current state of affairs can feel overwhelming for anyone, but especially so for those of us who both care and feel deeply.
This is a four part series on how to take care of oneself amidst the political, emotional, and energetic turmoil.
Not just any "oneself," but a "oneself" that is big-hearted and sensitive and wants to heal the world.
(1.) Cherish your sensitivity.
So many of us have been repeatedly told "You're too sensitive." The implication is that sensitivity is a flaw, perhaps even a dangerous hindrance to our ability to survive. In fact, like any unique strength, sensitivity is a competitive advantage if you know how to cultivate it.
The gift of sensitivity is the ability to detect significant amounts of information, often in much greater quantities than other people.
Hmmm...that seems pretty useful, doesn't it?
Sensitivity gets you into trouble when you don't know what to do with all of that information. The sensitivity isn't the problem, the lack of information management skills are.
Think of a radio. There are tons of radio waves flowing around it (lots of information, undetectable by non-radios.) When it is tuned to a particular station, it coherently presents a select set of information - the song or talk show or whatever. People hear the message and say, "Hey, this radio is useful."
But what if the radio dial was broken and it couldn't manage the flow of information around it? It would try to play all the stations at once, or play one station, then another, then another. The information would be scrambled. It could go on and off at odd hours. It could become very inconvenient and annoying. People would say "This stupid radio is broken. It is pointless."
Unfortunately this is what happens to a lot of sensitive people. They come into the world with cool built-in technology, but since no one around them teaches them how to use it, they are repeatedly told that they are broken.
This is a huge loss both to that individual and those around them. When sensitivity is shut down, everyone loses access to information. (That is arguably another reason why sensitive people are repeatedly reprimanded for speaking their minds - they indeed have detected something awry, and another party doesn't want the boat to be rocked.)
So step one to thriving in these chaotic times is to CHERISH YOUR SENSITIVITY. Learn how to care for and repair your internal "radio." The ability to not only detect information, but to be able to select the type of information that you need at a particular moment, is a very useful skill for both surviving and thriving. This skill can help you, and also be a boon to those around you.
Heads up: other people may think you are crazy. So be it. If they have never seen a radio or know what it is capable of, it is understandable that they may be alarmed when you start a radio fan club.
Be gentle with yourself. Your internal “radio” is probably going completely haywire these days, resulting in a body that is overwhelmed with grief, anger, anxiety, what-have-you. You may feel very much like the broken one, filled with garbled messages and going on and off at random. The key to coming back to center, to becoming a radiant woman, is not to try to stop being a radio - it's to carefully and lovingly fix the radio so it can do its job.
PS What does this have to do with sex and sexuality? More than I can get into in this post. Short thoughts - a woman who feels like a nut job due to the national crazy is going to have a much harder time relaxing enough to enjoy sex; physical sensitivity is the portal to heightened pleasure and connection.
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Pause. Take a deep breath. Percolate. If you wish, take out a journal. See if any of these questions strike your fancy...
- What did this post bring up for you? How did it land?
- How have you been feeling amidst the national and international turmoil?
- What is your relationship to your sensitivity? What did people tell you about it growing up; what do they say now? What do you think about it? Is it a strength? A burden?
- Do you have a robust community of other sensitive people who love their sensitivity and know how to actively use it for their own purposes?
- Can you relate to feeling like a broken radio?
- If so, do you already have the skills to repair your radio, or is this a whole new concept and skill set for you?